A Son’s Vows to Love, Honor, and Obey Go Awry
My brother’s troubles began with my parent’s marriage. They knew each other for only one week when they married. Mother told me that she only agreed because she was twenty-five, an old maid. Dad was […]
The Patient’s Room
Becoming a Heterosexual Man
“Fuck you, Mom. I look at porn.” That’s the root of the problem isn’t it? Not just her fault, that would be too easy and too damn typical and childish to stomach. And my continued […]
Myopia Road: Reflections on Painting and Therapy
Growing up on a road named Myopia always seemed fitting for my family since a myopic vision involves being able to see objects when things are close by, but having difficulty in seeing when objects […]
The Old Country
Family habits are hard to quit. Cycles move through us and are passed down; we all carry our own portion of psychological damage, the inherited limitations that shape our existence. Our individual share of what […]
Disordering Gender: Breaking the Transgender Taboo
What are therapists treating when they treat clients for “Gender Identity Disorder”? Both insurance companies and standards of care demand that therapists carefully diagnose patients who present ourselves as having gender identities at odds with […]