In this three-part feature, we will discuss methods of Self-Therapy from the 3 planes of human existence: Spirit, Mind, & Body [Part I: Weighing Our Spirit | Part II: Making Up Our Mind]
The Body is the final part of the process of resolving a symptom through self-therapy.
Once in this phase, you have already gained necessary insight into the undesired behavior on which you are placing energy. You have sought guidance from your spiritual or higher self by voicing your symptom to the universe and taking the conflict out of your ‘Self.’
You have looked at your symptom as an external tangible experience and connected it to the realm of collective human experience. You have explored tangible solutions which you may or may not be willing to enact. As a short reference, here is a broken down list of sample symptoms and approaches.
– I overeat
– I use cocaine
– I cut myself
– I don’t know
– My friend died
– I’m tired of feeling emotional pain
– Walk for 20 minutes
– Cut the amount I use slightly for 1 day
– Use a stuffed animal to cut once as a substitute
When beginning to enact the Body phase of self-therapy, you must inform your body that you intend to make a change it will not like.
Most often, because we have endeavored to resolve a conflict in ourselves at only the body level, our brain literally sabotages us by giving us fantasies that exist outside any tangible, present reality. For example, we want to lose weight so our brain fantasizes us 50 pounds skinnier.
Our brain does not fantasize about jogging for twenty minutes, sweating profusely, and feeling accomplished in that. Our bodies, like most human thoughts, are external entities subject to the same linearity that plagues us. The brain is results-driven, not work-driven.
To use a strong example, a person cuts himself as a way to experience pain, but he is ashamed and wishes to stop. His brain fantasizes about himself smiling in a body with no visible scars, completely healed on the outside. His brain does not fantasize about cutting a substitute object and placing the pain there.
The point is not that fantasizing is bad, it is that we must force our bodies to recognize the difference between fantasy and productivity.
Sit quietly and physically write out the symptom you feel the need to address. Write out one tangible, realistic goal you could accomplish on any day. It must be easily repeatable and not depend upon anyone else. It will be too difficult to undergo this type of symptom resolution if you place energy on someone else. If you believe there is nothing tangible you can DO with your body to aid in resolving your symptom, try the following exercise:
[DISCLAIMER: I am intentionally using the controversial symptom of Pedophilia to illustrate the far reaching uses of self-therapy. This is NOT, I repeat NOT, in any way making light of or excusing any behavior related to this symptom. This is absolutely not a case for tolerating such behavior. The purpose is to take a symptom considered one of the most negative in human experience and explore it productively and therapeutically.]
1. Read your symptom aloud.
I watch child pornography by myself while engaging in sexually stimulating activity.
2. Expose your symptom to yourself by consciously engaging in it.
Allow yourself to engage in the behavior, remaining aware the you are seeking guidance. Set an amount of time in advance, such as 45 minutes. Base this upon your usual amount of time spent.
3. Write down specific details about what you enjoyed most, without shame.
Lead with pleasure. If you can pinpoint your pleasure, you can better comprehend the potential reasons behind the symptom. Let yourself admit specific pleasurable aspects of the experience, without letting the shameful aspects take control.
I enjoyed seeing the girl’s bottom being touched.
Pleasure is pleasure, regardless of its cause. This concept is essential in the practice of self-therapy, because a main obstacle in dissolving a symptom is the negativity we attach to our pleasure in it. We must understand our pleasure in the symptom if we are to detach it from the symptom and place it back into our asymptomatic higher self.
Right now you are at a crossroads for healing your symptom. This is not a time to stay ashamed, guilty, or judgmental. It is is a time of honesty, acceptance, and understanding.
No one needs to know but you.
4. Pick the detail you feel the strongest about. If you find selecting one difficult, imagine which detail would make another person you know feel strongly.
Once you have selected one, do the following:
1. Speak the detail aloud ten times, five time with your eyes open, five times with your eyes closed. Then keep your eyes closed.
2. With closed eyes, say the detail with your mind, not your mouth.
3. Repeat the detail for two minutes in your mind. Use a timer.
4. Write down images you remember.
Let this exercise take the place of doing another tangible activity. This is a tangible activity, which will bring your symptom down to the body level. Each time, use a different detail you found pleasurable during the exposure part of the exercise.
Remember to keep forgiving yourself for the pleasure you have received from your symptom. Forgiveness of ourselves is the ultimate key to evolving as people. Happy Healing!
First published on Adam’s blog, Paranormalyte, on Jan. 27, 2014.