Sex Toy Myths Debunked

The advantages of a healthy sex life are limitless. From improving your relationship to your body and with a partner, to bettering your physical, mental, and emotional well-being, the benefits overall involve much more than just the pleasure you get from an orgasm.

Unfortunately, some still find themselves lacking a satisfying experience in the bedroom, whether it be from difficulty orgasming, disinterest, incongruous sex drives, or physical challenges. However, modern technology has created the perfect solution for increasing the number of positive experiences you have between the sheets: sex toys.

Some remain hesitant to the idea of incorporating a sex toy into the bedroom. For starters, if just saying the term still makes you wince, remove the stigma in your mind and think of them instead as sexual aids, rather than toys. Remember that they are designed to do just that, aid in your experience.

If you’re still unsure, take a look at some of these common concerns to ease your mind and introduce yourself into the idea.

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Sex toys will make our time in the bedroom less intimate.

It’s understandable that bringing something new into the bedroom could take away from a personable experience. However, adding a toy in the bedroom has been proven to actually increase your intimacy, not take away from it.

She Knows says that the more satisfying sex life you can have with a toy is one of the best ways to connect with your partner on a deeper level emotionally and, of course, physically. The heightened excitement can increase sex drive and therefore lead to more frequent sex. If you’re concerned about something being intrusive to your experience, consider a smaller toy, such as a finger vibrator. It’s small enough to fit comfortably on your finger, or your partner’s, and yet powerful enough to still give women an increased sensation to your clitoris.

Toys are for people whose partners can’t satisfy them on their own.

Nope, not true. But this is a common concern, especially among men in heterosexual relationships. Women on average have a much more difficult time reaching orgasm than men. While your guy may be able to get you there, chances are it takes a lot more work and focus on both of your parts to do so.

Vibrators and clitoral stimulators have been expertly designed to allow women to orgasm easier. While he can still pleasure you through sensual touching and penetration, a clitoral stimulator can help get you over the edge quicker. Having a toy can also help couples relax more while in the act.

It relieves some of the pressure than can come from making sure that the other person is enjoying themselves. Thus, you can let go, and be more in the moment. For many couples, they’re actually an important part of their love making. Lesbian couples especially can benefit from a dildo.

While they can pleasure one another in other ways, Adam and Eve writes that a vibrating dildo in a harness allows both partners to experience the pleasure that a toy offers simultaneously. Also, they can still benefit from the intimacy of making love face to face.

Toys are only for hormonal, sex-crazed young people.

Toys are becoming increasingly popular among people of all ages and backgrounds.

According to WebMD, the numbers are said to be even more common than most people think, as some asked to participate declined to discuss their experience. Having a sex aid can actually be more beneficial the older you get. Not only can they help spice up your relationship, but as you age, you can experience decreased blood flow, which is responsible for a man’s erection and both male and female genital sensations. There are toys to help aid you in both situations, such as a penis pump or vaginal pump, that can increase blood flow to the area.

Furthermore, you should never let anyone make you think that you don’t deserve a hot and sensual sex life for any reason!

When reflecting on the sexual relationship with your partner, the most important thing to consider is whether or not you’re both satisfied.

Having an honest conversation is a great way to open the lines of communication for suggestions on how to better the experience for you both. If you decide that a toy could be beneficial, find something that will make you both comfortable while incorporating in your love making.

Sex toys are a great example for how an open mind can prove to be rewarding. After trying out your first toy, you might even find yourself eager to branch out while helping to keep you and your partner happy, satisfied, and eager for more!